10 Annoying Things You Do During Sex

What you think is seductive may actually just suck

As soon as you start having sex consistently, you begin developing your repertoire of sexual techniques—your go-to ways of making a woman moan, and keeping her coming back for more.

But what if your signature moves just turn her off?

“We do a terrible job of teaching men about sexuality,” says Monica Lieser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-author of 14 Days of Foreplay. “They feel like they have to be in charge—they better know what to do. So they just kind of fill in the blanks.”

Sometimes, that kind of sexual improvising works. But other times, it just leaves her feeling irritated.

What's the one thing that never fails to light a woman’s fire?

Sometimes my husband lets me “catch” him watching the dirty video we made on vacation in Jamaica a few years ago. It’s probably a ploy, but it works every time.

The idea that he’d rather look at me than one of those barely legal blondes on PornHub? Swoon.

But even if you’ve never filmed any sexy home movies together, the idea is this: Find a way to convey that it’s her that you want. Urgently.

Women love to feel wanted. Neuroscientist Ogi Ogas, Ph.D., once said that female sexual fantasies center on the feeling of being desired. That feeling can instantly trigger her arousal.

So make out in the elevator the second the doors close. Text her every dirty thing that springs to mind when you think of her yoga pants. Allow your eyes to linger when she takes off her coat.

Once she gets that message, she’ll be chasing you around the kitchen table.

—Ben from Charleston, South Carolina

17 Sex Tips For Couples in Long-Term Relationships.

Because Keeping It Fresh is healthy for your body

Being in a long-term relationship has its perks, but honestly, it has its downsides, too. It's great to have such close intimacy with someone that even peeing with the door open is OK, but sometimes, things can get a little too comfortable. Before you know it, you can find yourself having the obligatory once-a-week sex, in missionary position only, just before you both roll over and go to sleep.

If you're in a long term relationship and feel things are getting a bit stagnant — or even if you aren't but would just like to mix it up even more — then here are some tips you may want to work into your usual repertoire of sexual activities. They're all really fun, and all of them have helped us keep it fresh.

1. Have Morning Sex At Least Once A Week

It has actually been scientifically proven that morning sex is great for you. Between being less self-conscious and the fact that your partner is already right there, it's a great way to start the day. I love starting my day with an orgasm and watching my partner grin all morning for the same reason.

The 20 most romantic sex positions

Sometimes your sex life needs a little less raunch and a big dose of old school romance.

With busy lives, it's easy to get caught up in our standard sex routines meaning that, sometimes we don't put the effort in to make the most of our partners.

Staring into each other's eyes and taking it slow can make all the difference; actually having that emotional connection with your other half is proven to improve your orgasms. 

1. The Fantastic Rocking Horse

How to Prolong Your Foreplay and Have the Best Sex EVER

If you think "sex" refers only to intercourse, it's time to reconsider what it means to score. The payoff to slowing down: a longer, stronger, more electrifying orgasm

When you and your man get together, he's pretty much guaranteed to hit a home run, right? And likely, the sequence of steps involves little more than a few kisses before leaping into intercourse. But by skipping "bases," you're not living up to your pleasure potential.

21 Ways to Have WAY More Fun with Masturbation

What are you doing tonight? Get your self hot up with this 21 Super style and let the best 31 days of your sex year begin!

1. Use Lube
The wetter the better! Nearly 50 percent of people said lube made it easier for them to orgasm, in a recent study.

5 Habits of Women Who Orgasm Every Single Time

While it may seem the stuff of mythical legends and daytime TV, there are women who do, indeed, reach that magical climax every time they have sex. And no, they're not faking it. We turned to two top experts to find out just what everyone else can learn from the women who never have trouble crossing the finish line.

1. THEY MASTURBATE ON THE REGULAR

"Women who masturbate on a regular basis have become experts on their own bodies and know where the best 'feel-good' spots are," says Fran Walfish, Psy.D., an expert panelist on the upcoming WE tv series, Sex Box. "They know how much pressure, tempo, speed, lightness, and every single nuance of touch, direct or indirect, on their clitorises they need in order to orgasm." And getting off solo makes it that much more likely that you'll get off when your partner comes into play. "When you know what is exciting and arousing, your partner can enhance it," says Jane Greer, Ph.D., New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship.

2. THEY PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR C-SPOT


Most women require stimulation of the clitoris in order to reach orgasm, says Walfish. "A much smaller percentage of women reach orgasm solely through G-spot stimulation, via penetration," she says, but for the vast majority, the clitoris is where it's at. Whether your partner gives it some lovin' with his hand, his body, or a vibrator, focusing on this hotspot will result in a big pleasure payoff.